This is a heart-wrenching story. I’ve been there. My ex-husband played the natural disconnect card by way of adultery, abuse, and addiction. Then he did the same thing with the AAA cocktail of toxic behaviors to his second wife of ten years. He’s about to marry a third time, and she has only known him for a few months and knows nothing about his disassociative emotional style. I feel for her because her heart and love will be unappreciated. The older I get, the more I appreciate self-love, a husband with a mutual commitment to passionate commitment that has seen us through hard times, and emotionally intelligent friends. You deserve a passionate love that is equal to the effort you clearly invest in your relationship choices. All the best to you. Excellent article. Thanks for sharing it!