Narcissistic abuse impacts at least half the world’s population.

I am asked why I am a narcissistic abuse awareness activist. To answer this question, I draw from experience being the target of narcissistic abuse. I am driven by the deep desire that others be released from the same mental and emotional cage that I used to be in. Rather than a tit-for-tat spat over whether someone is or isn’t qualified to identify NPD in their lives, I turn to research and numbers. World-renowned psychotherapist Bree Bonchay, LCSW said,

“Here’s what we do know: Approximately one in every 10 people is walking around without a conscience, or at best, lacks…


This inspirational story about the power of letting go of the toxic things and people that weigh us down is shared through the story of two monks and a woman. This zen story about letting go is also known as The Muddy Road.

A few days ago, I realized that I often use stories, analogies, and parables to make a point. I also have future posterity in mind so that they can hear their (great) grandma share meaningful stories that shape the heart and mind. My hope is that sharing stories and inspiration dear to my heart may help encourage…


My late husband passed 25 years ago of complications of a rare and deadly brain cancer. Nothing could have prepared me for the chapter of life that ensued. I quickly learned that grief is like the sudden and perturbing ringing in the ears that makes it hard to focus on things and won’t subside until it decides to. Grief rings throughout my body at times, even today.

All this happened before the advent of social media. I would have liked to have talked to other widows and listened to their counsel. I only knew one other young widow and she…


Negative experiences happen to everyone. If you’re born to the Earth, you’re going to have bumps along your journey. Learning how to deal with negative experiences is an essential skill set that can be learned. Every day presents opportunities for things to go very well, or very poorly. Most days are some type of combination of both. Have you ever overreacted or said something you later regretted? Have circumstances caused you to fall into a depression, and lose your confidence? No doubt about it, negative things are going to happen. My goal is to help you learn how not to…


How gelatin, toilet paper, and intuition delivered a holiday miracle at Aldi’s.

Today’s win was the stuff of miracles — or the miracle stuffing. Our family members have been consumer guinea pigs for gluten-free food companies for ten years now. Three of us have the joy of needing sustenance outside the mainstream culinary standard. It is a miracle when a product comes along that we are willing to finish, let alone tastes like actual food that didn’t come from a pet store food aisle.

Normal gluten-free fare is expensive. Flavor is not factored into the pricing of gluten-free products. The…


Bigotry is simply being intolerant of someone different from you.

Imagine a world where everyone holds the same opinion about everything. Let’s take something dear to my heart — the humble hot dog. Nothing could be less dainty and more desirable than a one hundred percent beef hot dog with everything on it wrapped in a soft bun and a cute little foil pouch. I know hot dogs are traditionally considered food for dudes, but I am not afraid to say that every now and then I indulge in this delicious cultural icon of Americana. Great is the disdain a…

Alisa Rafferty

Self-Enrichment Educator. Narcissistic and Spiritual Abuse Awareness Advocate.

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